After I had decided to work for myself, I dug through all my old files to find some clients from years past. I'm so glad that I printed out the information from weddings through the different companies I had worked for so that I could keep up with everyone and check in from time to time to see how their "happily ever after" was going.
While going through my files I found some emails from a client that I very clearly remember because of her amazing reception and the amazing love that she had found. She was one of my clients that had searched for love for years and had finally found the one. They planned their reception to be on the Cuyahoga Valley Scenic Railroad because of her fiances passion for trains. They had eveyone dress up to match the "theme" of their wedding and I think every guests showed up in elegant victorian gowns and very classic suits. It was absolutely magical to see. The planning details in this story don't matter, what matters is the love and joy the couple found in each other. That's what matters all the time, with every wedding that is planned.
They enjoyed themselves and their guests, they laughed and had fun, they hugged (even me) and loved each other to the fullest on that day. It was an absolutely honor to be a part of something where so many people were truly there, just celebrate and enjoy each other.
I emailed her recently to catch up and see how things had come along. Through the process her fiance/husband had struggled with cancer and I was hoping he had gotten better and they had been celebrating their love/life still to this day. Unfortunately the news wasn't good, and he passed away only a short time after their wedding day.
My post isn't to share someone's personal story or to make anyone upset by reading something sad. It is to let every bride that comes across this post know that what matters is the "love" and the memory you create. The details are great, the dress should be beautiful, the cake should be delicious but the day should be a celebration. If every bride took the time to relax and just enjoy their day, their love, their friends and family, if every wedding was as joyous as theirs, no one would ever look back regretting their bills, their hair choice or their makeup, they would look back and know that their special day was filled with love.
Don't invite the people that don't matter just to have a big wedding, don't choose a site that you don't like just to impress guests. Don't do anything that doesn't directly relate back to you being able to celebrate the amazing day you were able to commit to a lifetime with the person who you'd found to share your "happily ever after". You never know how long that will be, so you should always have a special day to cherish.