Monday, January 26, 2015

Questions That Lead to Love....?

I've seen this article passed around over the internet and then had a client send it over to me for review.  She suggested that I send it to my other bridal clients so that they could have these conversations with the person they are about to marry.  

What do you think?  Can you ask?  Do you already know?  Is anyone willing to have the conversation and let me know how it went?  Could we find two strangers and see what happens? 

Here is the actual article-
http://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html  

Here are the questions from the article- 
Set I
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
Set II
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
Set III
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... “
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

Happy Planning!
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Wednesday, June 11, 2014

Who Really Needs a Planner- Laura & Tim

There are few things I love as much as following up with brides to see what they did/didn't like about the the planning process.  Laura and Tim were married at Weymouth Country Club (a venue that I was familiar with) on a beautiful and very sunny day!  I had a great time working with her to put together a truly glamorous day.  She hired the great Pieter Bouterse Studio to do the floral work and design for her big day and had RAD there to capture it all.  Here are her answers along with some of the beautiful photos!  







Q: What made you decide to hire a wedding planner?
A: I hired a wedding planner because I started to feel overwhelmed with doing everything myself. I knew I was only having 2 people in my bridal party and there were so many things to consider.

Q: What types of things attracted you to each planner that you interviewed?
A: Brandi interviewed me! I needed a planner for the day of. I contacted her because she lived close to me and found out later that we had mutual friends. 

Q: What was something that made you NOT want to hire a particular planner and on the same note what was something you found that made you WANT to hire a certain planner?   
A: Originally, I did not have a planner in my budget. I was worried about the cost. Someone suggested to me hiring a planner.

Q: What was the best thing your wedding planner did for you? 
A: If anything went wrong at my wedding, I didnt know about it. And still dont!

Q: What was something your planner did that you would never have thought of doing?
A: Almost everything!

Q: Did you feel that your wedding planner was worth the cost?
A: Absolutely. Especially knowing that i did not have to deal with the invitations. 


Q: Was there anything you would have changed about your experience with your wedding planner?
A: I would have had my family more involved with my planner so I could have had less responsibilities.

Q: What would you have changed about your wedding? 
A: I wouldn't change anything about my wedding. 


There is no better testament to a wedding planners services than "I wouldn't change a thing about my wedding".  I love hearing that.  

Happy Planning!










Monday, March 31, 2014

Secrets Behind- Makeup Artist with Lindsay London



In my favorite series "Secrets Behind" I've talked with lots of different vendors this time, I'm excited to talk with a makeup artist for secrets behind the wedding makeup!
Lindsay London was kind enough to talk with me about working with a makeup artist for your wedding day.  



Sometimes, I think this aspect of planning gets put on the back burner and then is an after thought by quite a few brides.  How you look is SO important and while no one wants to look "not like themselves" (as I hear so often) real, experienced, wedding makeup artist are able to make you look JUST like you, only "wedding ready".  I think that really means they make it so that you are comfortable, beautiful and authentic but, in full makeup.
  
Lindsay herself has some great feedback on the process- "Most Brides are dreaming of the perfect dress since they were little girls or spend hours doing research on the styles that fit their body type best. Having a flawless face and the right hair style can be the ultimate finishing touch to the perfect bridal look. I've heard it a million times from Brides that say they can do their own make up or that their maids don't want to make the investment. But when it comes down to it, On your wedding day- you deserve to be pampered and feel like a movie star as your beauty team comes to you so you can relax and enjoy your time with your favorite ladies."

That's what you want on your wedding day, right?  Flawless.  



Q: What is the biggest misconception about your industry?
A: I think the biggest misconception in the beauty industry is that anyone can do bridal make up. As women most of us wear make-up daily but by having an experienced professional apply your make up you  will not only make you and your entire bridal party look amazing in all the photos it also makes the beginning of your busy day that much  more relaxing.

Q: What are a few mistakes brides sometimes make when choosing their makeup artist? 
A: I think it’s important to find an artist that listens to your likes and dislikes about how you like yourself in make-up and someone that you’re comfortable with. Having your bestie do your make up on the morning of your wedding can not only be stressful for you if you hate it but it can stressful for her also because she can’t relax and enjoy the time with you.

Q: What things should a bride look for, look at, when selecting a makeup artist?
A: It’s always a great idea to read reviews and go off of other recommendations from ladies that have already walked down the aisle. Don’t be shy to ask your artist a bunch of questions or if you need to get together for another trial to try a new look that you saw on Pinterest. Who you choose to be part of your beauty team is just as important as which venue, photographer and dress you wear. The investment you’re making in all of these things is peanuts compared to what your bridal beauty will cost but is untimely going to give the biggest impact. Everyone will notice how glowing and happy you look but a bad make up job is something you’ll have to look at forever. “If you think it’s expensive to hire a professional, wait until you hire an amateur”

Q: What is the one thing a bride should splurge on when booking with you? 
A: Splurge on a facial treatment or two and brow waxing before the big day. This is fantastic not only for the health of your skin but a great way to pamper and prep your complexion for better results when the time comes to have your make up done. Also, Schedule your trial run! It’s a great time with your artist to plan your wedding day look so that there are no surprises on the wedding day. Trials are the time to try a few looks, address skin care concerns, test the longevity of the make-up throughout the day AND feel gorgeous. I tell all my brides to try and schedule their trial for their dress fitting, bridal shower or special night out!

Q: If you had a client who had endless funds what unique ideas would you offer them?

A: If a money tree landed in a Brides back yard I would recommend her to pay for her bridesmaids and mothers bridal beauty. I think it’s a lovely gesture, because who wouldn’t want to look lovely! Besides having hair and make-up services on location, I would have a masseuse there for chair massages and a manicurist for chip free nails too. Having a monogramed bag with a LL gift certificate so they know beauty services were from you and a lip gloss to touch up with throughout the night. That way your girls feel gorgeous and they can spend all day taking care of you and touching up for photos!

Q: What is something you wish all of your clients knew, or a certain thing you wish all of your clients would do to make working with them easier?
A: Something that I would want all of my clients to know is that as part of their beauty team I am there to work with them. Not to do what I want. I want a Bride to feel and look so gorgeous on her wedding day and when she is in my chair that she breaths and takes a moment to take it all in.  





Makeup artist can make the difference, not only in how you look but also in how you feel, so put that on your list of things to do, SOON and get yourself "wedding ready" before your wedding day!  Thank you to Lindsay London for her time and expertise!

Happy Planning!