When making decisions during the planning process stop and ask yourself "why?" Why are you choosing to do things a certain way or to have certain things at your wedding. If it is because you feel "obligated" to or because "that's the way everyone else does it" then rethink your decision. This is your wedding and your chance to make it something unique and special to you. Choose to do things in a way that will be fun, personal and special to your and your groom and you'll be much happier than if you do things because you "have to."